Video sharing is a great service...

2011-01-27T05:14:00.001-08:00

Hi, I have uploaded 32 videos so far to YouTube. This is a great service. I also share most of them on my website at http://www.abc-counselling.com/

Thank you to the people at YouTube for making this possible! :-)

Best wishes,
Jim

Dr Jim Byrne
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services

in reference to: YouTube - ABCCoaching's YouTube (view on Google Sidewiki)

The usefulness of Alexa site ranking

2011-01-26T07:35:00.001-08:00

Hi, I find Alexa very helpful for keeping tabs on the ranking for my site at http://www.abc-counselling.com.

I strongly recommend it.
Sincerley,
Jim
Dr Jim Byrne
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services

in reference to: Alexa the Web Information Company (view on Google Sidewiki)

Facebook is very helpful for staying in touch

2011-01-26T01:28:00.001-08:00

Hi, I find Facebook very helpful for staying in touch with friends and relatives, who can be quickly updated with news. I also find it very helpful for letting the world know what is going on on my Happiness Blog, at http://www.abc-counselling.com/id143.html. Thanks for this opportunity!
Regards,
Jim
Dr Jim Byrn
Doctor of Counselling
http://www.abc-counselling.com

in reference to: Welcome to Facebook (view on Google Sidewiki)

Learn how to be more self-confident

2009-03-12T03:28:00.000-07:00

Confidence Coaching Service
with Jim Byrne

Learning to manage your self-concept

"Helping you to rethink your self-narrative"

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CONFIDENCE COACHING:

For a Better Life at Home and at Work

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"Your reputation is not a *concrete reality*! It is a set of questionable beliefs and attitudes in the minds of others. It is your own unwise willingness to buy into their unkind judgements that causes you the pain of *status anxiety*!" Jim Byrne, December 2004.
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"Other people's heads are too wretched a place for true happiness to have its seat". Schopenhauer, *Parerga and Paralipomena*, 1851.

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Would you like to be more self-confident?
Would you like to be able to accept yourself exactly the way you are right now?
Would you like to be able to feel good about yourself, no matter whether anybody loves and accepts you or not; and no matter whether you succeed or fail in your practical life tasks?

If so, I can help you.

Dr Manuel Smith, the author of a famous book entitled *When I Say No, I Feel Guilty*, maintains that we are all born confident, and that our encounters with our parents induce feelings of guilt, shame, and self-downing, which damages our self-confidence. A similar view is held by Paul McKenna, the famous hypnotist. In my professional judgement, this is not a good way to go in trying to understand or overcome your problems of self-confidence. It seems to me that, if you follow Dr Smith and Paul McKenna, you could still be stuck with your problems of lack of self-confidence, plus you could also acquire problems of rage at your parents for *causing* your problems. So I cannot recommend this approach.

Jean Paul Sartre, the French existentialist intellectual, maintained that we are very confident as long as we are the *subject* who is perceiving all others as *objects* in our gaze. However, he suggested that as soon as we perceive that we are suddenly an *object* in the gaze of the other, we lose our poise and confidence and become distressed and *existentially anxious*. This is no better, in my view, as a way of understanding our self-confidence problems, since we are now being invited to hand our power over to anybody to *create us* in their gaze, and make us the victims of their gaze; and to ignore the fact that we have a *choice* about how to respond to the *gaze* of the other! No matter how you *look at me*, or perceive me, or *construct* me, I am going to accept myself exactly as I am, as an OK human being. So I cannot recommend taking a Sartrian existentialist view of your lack of self-confidence.

Would you like to know a reliable way to develop your self-confidence?
Would you like to be comfortable with yourself exactly the way you are today?

The best solution to problems of self-confidence, in my experience, is that developed by Dr Albert Ellis, the New York based clinical psychologist, and creator of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy. Somewhere between 1955 and 1962, Dr Ellis evolved the concept of *Unconditional Self Acceptance* (USA), which is the royal road to supreme self-confidence. I have now developed a five-month programme - involving one brief session per month - based on a fusion of REBT/USA, TA and Zen, which helps you to identify with your pure essence, and to escape all negative identifications and all forms of self-downing. And I am currently refining this process to make it more *moral* and explicitly *socially responsible*.

Would you like to develop your sense of OK-ness, and feel comfortable with your self-image?

If you would like help with problems of self-confidence or self-acceptance, then I can help you, face to face in Hebden Bridge or Halifax; over the Internet anywhere in the world; or by Telephone coaching.

Online service. Coaching sessions cost £27.00 (or $US50) for forty minutes of online contact (by email exchanges or internet relay chat), plus local taxes; and £27.00 (or $US50) for thirty minutes of telephone chat. To book a session, please click here for One Confidence Coaching Session by phone or over the internet, or by email exchanges.

For face to face coaching, the full fee is £90.00 per forty-five minute session: though concessions are available (in face to face meetings only) on a sliding scale, related to your gross annual income. (See the sliding scale of fees, in the *Information Pack*). The lowest fee, for unemployed individuals, students, pensioners, is currently £25.00. (If you want to ask for a concessionary fee, in face to face work, then please email Jim Byrne at ABC Coaching.

The complete Confidence Coaching Programme consists of four sessions, followed by homework assignments designed to get you developing the beliefs, attitudes and behaviours which will turn you into a supremely confident person. This programme can be done face-to-face, over the telephone, over the internet, or by email exchanges, from any part of the globe.

Do you want to change your self-image and learn to accept yourself as you are? Do you want to feel good about yourself, and poised in the world? I can help you to be more confident in a surprisingly brief period of time.
Do you want to be more confident and self-accepting? Email Jim Byrne – at ABC Coaching - to set up a *face-to-face* Confidence Coaching session in Hebden Bridge or Halifax; or to request further information. Or telephone me on 01422 843629, or 01422 847882, from inside the UK; or 44 1422 843629, or 44 1422 847882 from outside the UK.

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THE HIGH-SPEED GUIDE TO SELF-CONFIDENCE FOR WOMEN, by Renata Taylor-Byrne, Personal Performance Coach

The High Speed Guide to Self-confidence for Women is a summary of the top skills and strategies that women greatly benefit from using, in order to maximize their sense of self-confidence. In this sense it is an ‘instruction booklet’ that gets you off to a quick start. There are physical and mental strategies that are based on much research and experience. They work for me. They have worked for others. Try them and see for yourself!

Because both western and eastern cultures bombard you from an early age with false, misleading messages about your ability, potential and rights, you need powerful tools to help you separate cultural fantasy from fact, and to build up your physical and mental strength, to create a marvellous career for yourself, and to create a loving and supportive family relationship network.

The High Speed Guide to Self-confidence for Women, Price £6.50 British pounds (which is $9.00 USD; or Euros 7 [plus any applicable local taxes]).

(Conversion rates correct as at 12th March 2009. The prices are fixed in USDs).

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SUPREME SELF CONFIDENCE: in 150 days, by Jim Byrne, Coaching and Counselling Psychologist/Philosopher

The purpose of this book is to help you to develop supreme confidence in your self; and happiness and mastery in your life.

The programme described involves small, easy steps, which build up, over time, into a very powerful transformation of your self-belief, your self-concept, and your self-acceptance when things go wrong in your life.

This book is based on a system (called Unconditional Self Acceptance [USA]) which has been producing great results for individuals for almost 50 years. Chapters include: Self-confidence and emotional control; Getting rid of feelings of inferiority; Learning to distinguish between your behaviours and your human essence; and How to manage your Self and your Ego. These chapters help you to get over your disturbed emotions; to begin to see yourself in a better light; to look at yourself more realistically and accurately; and to come to love and accept yourself.

# Supreme Self-Confidence in 150 days, by Jim Byrne (2002), 160pp. In e-book form, delivered to your computer within a few hours: Cost £16.00 UK pounds, ($US30.00; Euros 24). Click the following link to buy this book:

The Supreme Self-Confidence Book, Price £21.80 GBP (or $30.00 USD, or Euros 23.50 [plus any local taxes that apply]). (Conversion rates correct as at 12th March 2009. The prices are fixed in USDs).

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